i have similiar situation. an older woman at work. a grandmother. has very pretty thick hair.mid back.graying brown.two yrs ago cut off twenty inches. hair still looks great. she is friendly and always says hello.but at work have to be polite and careful what yoy say. been married37 yrs. wife keeps her hair just past shoulders.so i do have hair to play with. and hair to fantasy about.play at home. dream about all the rest.